We’ve reached the point where just about everything you’ve ever done in bed now has an official name. The latest addition to the ever-expanding sex dictionary? “Shallowing”— a subtle move that plenty of people were already doing, but probably didn’t know they were “doing it” in any codified way.

Shallowing is exactly what it sounds like: stimulation focused at the entrance of the vagina, using fingers, toys, or anything else that doesn’t dive too deep. No thrusting, no full-on penetration—just light touch a few centimeters in, right where most of the nerve endings actually are. Sex toy company SmileMakers puts it this way when they talked to Glamour: “The idea is to go in only by a few centimeters.” Which is a polite way of saying “don’t go full jackhammer.”

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