When Shelbie Huffman uploaded a video of a parenting moment with her son, she never imagined it would rack up more than nine million views.

What she did know was that the conversation mattered, because it wasn’t really about doing chores.

It was about teaching her son not to fall into the trap of weaponized incompetence.

“The journey to teaching Calvin about weaponized incompetence is moment by moment. It requires me to take full ownership, as I’ve contributed to it too. But more importantly, I’ve experienced the harm it can do and the turmoil it can bring to your life,” Shelbie told Kidspot.

“This is weaponized incompetence”

Calvin is 12, a notoriously tumultuous age.

“We are growing up together, fully aware that it’s going to be a beautiful and messy ride,” Shelbie says. 5

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