How to navigate grief when it's an ex who dies.

When a family member or close friend dies, you're suddenly left with a gaping hole in your life and your heart. And usually, there are people around you who understand, who guide you through the grief and help you pick up the pieces.

But what about when it's an ex? The person you once loved, shared months or even years with, but no longer has a place beside you.

The sadness is overwhelming, but so is the uncertainty. There's no roadmap to this often unspoken type of grief. No Hallmark cards or casseroles from neighbours. Just one looming question.

Do you still have the right to grieve them?

For Simon Mummé, the answer came crashing down on an ordinary day in February.

Simon was working from home when his phone buzzed with a text from an unknown number: "James has passed away."

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