Feeling crushed under the never-ending family to-do list? Experts say there’s a magic phrase wives can drop to finally get hubbies to step up: “Can you take the mental lead on this one?”

According to behavioral scientist Dr. Zelana Montminy, it’s the ultimate parenting hack — no nagging, no fights, just instant load-sharing when you feel like you’re truly spent.

As the expert recently told PureWow in an interview, an “invisible load” isn’t “just about scheduling,” but rather, “holding the responsibility in your head.”

When you ask your spouse to “take the mental lead,” she said, you’re not just handing off chores — you’re handing over the wheel. It’s less about doing the dishes, more about owning the sink.

The doctor stressed that this sentence works because it changes the whol

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