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My husband “Jake” grew up with three brothers. Their dad always took a week to bring them on a guys-only fishing trip together each year, something they all still do together. Jake and I have a 7-year-old son, “Finn,” and a 5-year-old daughter, “Miley.” Jake and his dad and brothers began including Finn in their trips when he was Miley’s age, and now that she is old enough to understand, Miley is upset about being excluded. I agree with her that this is unfair and have told my husband that he can either take both kids or neither of them. Now Jake is accusing me of “destroying a family tradition.” As far as I’m concerned, a “family tradition” that pr

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