DEAR HARRIETTE: My parents and adult siblings are planning a big trip together, and they’re all really excited about it. They’ve been talking about it for months, and it feels like everyone expects me to be fully on board.

The problem is, I don’t have enough vacation days to go for the full two weeks, and when I suggested coming for just part of the trip, they started guilt-tripping me to take unpaid leave to make it work.

I simply can’t afford to lose that much income right now. It’s starting to make me feel anxious and torn.

I want to spend time with them and make memories, but I also need to be responsible about my money, my career and my personal boundaries.

I feel like no matter what I do — joining for a shorter portion, maybe helping plan some activities from home — it won’t be e

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