DEAR ABBY: I had my DNA analyzed and subsequently received a message from a young woman (a stranger) on the site. Her DNA matches at the level of a niece. Her message said she did not know her father, and her mother hasn’t been clear on that subject. Her mother “met a guy” back in early 1990. She was born later that year. She believes I’m her uncle and asked if I know any male relatives who could be her father. I responded, letting her know I’d get back to her.
When I spoke with my brother, he corroborated details in her message about meeting her mother, which was a hookup. The news of a daughter he never knew about is overwhelming for him as he currently has a kid, and his wife is pregnant again. (He also has an adult daughter from a previous marriage.) I have not yet responded to this w