DEAR MISS MANNERS: In 2011, I had weight loss surgery. It was very successful, and I’ve managed to keep the weight off. Of course, a lot of people think I “took the easy way” to lose weight, but surgery is not a miracle cure, just a tool.

My best friend has a slight weight problem, or at least she believes she does. I sure don’t see her as needing to lose weight. (And I sure don’t judge people who are overweight, as I’ve been there and know just how hard it is.)

My current problem is actually keeping my weight UP where my doctor (not the weight-loss doctor) wants it. I’m only 5-foot-3, and I feel too heavy at the weight my doctor says is healthy.

What people don’t realize is that it’s just as much a struggle for me to gain weight as it was to lose it. I am VERY careful not to brag, or

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