Dear Abby: My best friend “Pat” and I live on opposite sides of the country. I am very concerned about Pat’s daughter and granddaughter, “Mandy.” Pat’s son-in-law is verbally abusive. He calls Pat’s daughter names and tells Mandy that Mommy is bad. Mandy is only 3 and already knows she has to be nice to Daddy so he doesn’t yell at Mommy.

Pat’s daughter refuses to leave her marriage until Mandy is older so as not to confuse her. I know this is terrible for the child and will cause her to have bad memories all her life. I’m also afraid that Pat’s son-in-law will end up physically harming Mandy. Should I be trying to convince my friend to encourage her daughter to leave ASAP? Or do I need to step back and mind my own business?

My friend Pat is determined to stay out of this, and I’m very wo

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