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Dear Care and Feeding,

I recently discovered that I still can’t believe: My in-laws have been allowing our 15-year-old son, “David,” to drink beer at their house. Apparently, this has been going on for months!

The worst part? My husband “Walter” thinks it’s no big deal. He even admitted that his parents let him do the same thing at David’s age! His excuse is that it’s “just one beer with dinner” and they’re not letting him get drunk—so it’s fine.

I disagree entirely. I told my in-laws that David—and his younger brother—will not be visiting them for the foreseeable future. Now Walter, his parents, and even David are ganging up on me, claiming I’m overreacting.

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