DEAR HARRIETTE: My fiancee and I are going strong, but she’s just been accepted to a Ph.D. program in another state.

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I always knew that she had applied to certain programs in different states, and I was OK with that. In the past few months, though, while awaiting her acceptance letters, my career skyrocketed. I was assigned two major accounts at work and nearly tripled their growth within a month. With that came a major promotion and trust with some of our top clients.

Considering my fiancee’s plans — plans that she’s been hatching for the past few years — I wonder if my sudden growth at work is as important. Should I leave my job now and move with my fiancee as planned, or should I propose going long-distance while she starts off her program?

I want to honor my career

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