Dear Carolyn: I definitely want kids and am at the age where it needs to happen relatively soon. My boyfriend also wants kids. He also is great with kids; his sister has two, and he’s a world-class uncle. He also has an excellent career and would be a very good provider. He’d be a great dad.

My problem? I’ve come to realize that I just like him, I don’t actually love him. I’m not even sure if I can explain why. It’s like he’s a comfortable outfit I’d put on to lounge around but would never wear to go out.

He has broached the topic of marriage, and honestly, my first thought is “No way.” And then I remember what a huge part I want co-parenting to be in my someday marriage and I wonder why I’m not saying “Hell, yes” to him.

Would it be wrong to plan my future with someone I think will be

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