Key points

High-conflict gray divorce can cause estrangement between parents and children.

Forgiveness is for our healing, not excusing the person who hurt us.

Grieving and forgiveness practices can ease pain and heal and rebuild wounded relationships.

Gray divorce refers to couples aged 50 and older ending their marriage . Researchers found that the divorce rate for this group has been the fastest growing in the U.S., doubling between 1990 and 2010, and they predicted it would increase by a third by 2030. Countries worldwide are experiencing a similar rise.

Divorce doesn't have to be war; however, it often becomes one. Some even call it "tribal warfare," when family members align with each parent and judge, blame, and shame the other parent. Minor and adult children may becom

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