Dear Carol: My head is pounding from stress after leaving my mom, who lives in a skilled nursing facility. Anger isn’t my norm, but I’ve exhausted every civil way of communicating with them. Leaving a 90-year-old woman with dementia and assorted physical challenges lying in a soaked incontinence pad on top of soiled sheets for hours crosses the line. This happens routinely. For instance, this morning, after mentioning Mom’s condition to an aide, she accompanied me to Mom’s room, where she sullenly changed Mom’s brief. Then she none-too-gently plopped Mom in a chair, stripped the bed and said she’d be right back. We waited a half hour before I tracked down a different aide in the hall who said she’d send someone. Eventually, the bed got made, and Mom was settled again. I get that short st

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