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Dear Care and Feeding,

Almost two years ago, my husband and I had our first child. It was a difficult pregnancy and a traumatic birth, followed by a surprise spine surgery for my partner, and—just six months later—a broken leg for me. We live across the country from our in-laws, so their support is limited. However, my husband is deeply hurt by how little effort his dad and stepmom make for us, especially for him, compared to what they do for his three siblings and four stepsiblings. Granted, most of them live nearby, but three live overseas and still receive far more visits and support than we do.

Normally, I’d be glad not to have overbearing in-laws, but I feel for my

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