DEAR ANNIE: My sister “Michelle” and I used to be close, but things changed after she had her second child. She rarely returns my calls and only texts if I reach out first. When we do talk, it’s always short, and she seems distracted or annoyed. I’ve offered to help with the kids or bring meals by, but she always says she’s “got it handled.”

Last month was my birthday. Michelle didn’t call or text, even though I saw her post online that day. I waited a few days before checking in. A few days later she reached out and apologized, saying she “meant to get around to it” but was swamped. I understand parenting is demanding, but I feel like I’m annoying her every time I reach out. I’ve asked if I did something wrong, and she insists everything is fine.

I don’t want to make it about me, but I

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