DEAR ABBY: I have been with my girlfriend for 25 years. We have never married for various reasons. She is in her 60s, and I am 13 years younger. Our sex life isn’t so good anymore. As a matter of fact, it is gone. What can I do as a younger man to make her feel special again? How can I light her fire? We still sleep in the same room, but that’s about it.

I am not ugly, overweight or unappealing. Is there any hope for at least a slight increase in sex? All of my parts are working, so that’s not the problem. I don’t want to cheat, and there are too many diseases I could catch out there. Please advise. -- READY AND WILLING IN ARIZONA

DEAR READY: It’s time for you and your lady friend to have a calm, honest conversation about your lack of a sex life.

When you do, ask her if sex causes her p

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