DEAR MISS MANNERS: I work in the wedding industry, and I have been rather flummoxed by a recent trend: It seems to have become the fashion for the bride and groom to order themselves a special meal, of a higher caliber and price point than what their guests are having.

An example might be that all of the guests have a choice of roast chicken or a pork chop, but the groom has ordered himself a 20-ounce porterhouse.

I realize that the bridal couple sees this as “their special day,” but as they are completely on display at the head table, this display of luxury is not exactly subtle. Also, as I try to explain to them during the planning process, a bride and groom will rarely get to enjoy their meal at the reception anyway, what with all of the interruptions from speeches and the like.

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