MISS MANNERS by Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

DEAR MISS MANNERS : My wife and I have a close, loving relationship with my sister and her husband, despite living hundreds of miles apart. We speak frequently and make several overnight visits to each other’s homes each year.

The problem is that my sister often invites friends of theirs, whom they see often, to their home when we are visiting. We do not care for their friends, and their conversations often devolve into discussions about people we’ve never met and neighborhood happenings we know nothing about.

How do we politely ask my sister not to invite her friends over when we are visiting?

GENTLE READER: If you were to ask your sister, would she not say she is trying to draw you into her circle and her life?

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