Key points

"Never fighting" in a relationship may signal dishonesty or repression of feelings.

Conflict reveals key insights about partners and their stress responses.

Understanding the roots of conflict can lead to increased empathy and healthier communication.

There are a lot of people who say, “Our relationship’s perfect. We never fight.”

And to me, that’s a red flag.

It usually means you’re not being honest, or you’re hiding something. At least one person is holding things in. Because if your personalities mesh really well, and there’s not a lot to fight about, you’re still human. There are going to be disagreements.

When people tell me they never fight, it’s like when people come to therapy and say they had the perfect childhood . My immediate thought is: “Oh, really? Tell

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