Dear Eric: I’ve got a family party in a few weeks that I look forward to every year, but I am dreading this one. Until recently my brother was extremely overweight due to eating far too much and taking no exercise. He was also a very heavy drinker. He’s turned that around now, which is great, although he still has a lot of weight to lose.

The trouble is he’s been criticizing what others eat and drink. Just the smallest comments occasionally about the calorie content of what you eat and what drinking does to you. He even occasionally comments on my size, telling me I have big hips, or I look fat in what I’m wearing. He has a toxic personality and has always been jealous of everything I’ve done.

He doesn’t say these things to be helpful; he says them to be hurtful (if he wasn’t criticizing

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