Asking for a friend: ‘My friend’s new husband liked my profile on a dating app but has convinced her it’s innocent. I’m terrified she’s falling for his gaslighting

Dr West replies: If he was only there ‘to make friends’, why has he kept it a secret from her? Also, while some dating apps have a friend function, as you said, he made a choice not to use that option. He went to the effort of verifying his account, so he has clearly given this some thought. As you have shown with his account, he is active on this site and clearly lying to her. And now apparently convincing her that there’s nothing wrong with his behaviour.