This article was written by Lilia, 20.

If you identify as queer and are in a relationship that looks ‘straight’ from the outside, I see you, your queerness is valid, and your relationship doesn’t make that any less true.

Let’s explore why preconceptions and stereotypes about relationships occur, how this can be hurtful or invalidating to peoples’ identities, and what we can do to feel more ourselves (without changing the relationship itself!).

What is a straight-presenting relationship, from my experience?

Firstly, when I refer to queerness, this could be any identity that you see fits under that umbrella term, including sexuality and gender.

Queerness can look and feel different for everyone.

For me, I am a non-binary, queer person in a relationship with a cisgender, heterosexual ma

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