Dear Carolyn: I’m still reeling from a recent breakup but not getting much sympathy or understanding from friends and family.

My girlfriend, “Lisa,” and I were supposed to get married Labor Day weekend, but a few weeks before the wedding, I started to worry that we hadn’t known each other long enough and hadn’t lived together. I’d read that two years is the minimum you should date before getting married. We knew each other just nine months before we got engaged in July and were planning to move in together only after the wedding. Lisa’s parents are really old-fashioned that way.

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