Dear Annie: How the heck do I celebrate Christmas? Should I skip it? We have no plan and no home base, and my father’s side is unavailable. Some relatives are fighting, and the thought of celebrating without everyone breaks my heart. But I realize that’s already happening.

I want to buy a few things to keep for future Christmases to remind me of — and honor — those we’ve lost (one person especially loved the holiday and passed that joy on to me). I just fear the day will feel depressing and tense. My partner’s family would be happy to have me, but I think that would upset me more, having to smile through my sadness. And despite it all, I find myself wanting to sing Christmas songs already.

— Caroler in Crisis

Dear Caroler: You’ve endured more in a year than many face in a lifetime. No w

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