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Dear How to Do It,

I had a breakup with my girlfriend of eight years about two years ago. It had been my longest relationship and I didn’t feel ready to date right away. During the last two years, howver, I’ve learned more about my sexual interests, and I’ve discovered something about myself I both love—and am terrified to share with future partners.

I really like receiving anal sex and prostate stimulation. I anally masturbate regularly and can even have prostate orgasms that cause me to ejaculate. Recently I’ve been feeling lonely doing this without a partner and want to get back to dating, but I’m not sure how to proceed. I don’t want to exclusively do anal or pr

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