Key points

Reset is the integration of everything learned during rupture and repair.

Reset indicates that new relational patterns have begun to replace old ones.

Reset allows partners to experience the relationship as a “third entity”—the "us" they co-create.

Reset is not perfection; it is renewed relational identity grounded in trust and resilience.

Rupture is inevitable in intimate relationships. What matters is not whether couples encounter rupture but whether they are willing to repair— and, even more important, whether they are able to reset afterward.

Reset isn’t about pretending the rupture never happened. Instead, it’s about integrating what the conflict revealed, what the repair required, and how each partner grew and contributed to the repair in the process.

Reset is the

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