Yes, you read that correctly. Your therapist might be lying to you.

Not in the dramatic double life or secret agenda sense. Not in a way that is meant to harm you. More often, the lies that happen in therapy are subtle. They sound like softness. They appear as omissions. They take the shape of gentle detours that feel good in the moment but leave something essential untouched. They are the lies therapists tell to keep things comfortable for you and sometimes also for themselves.

And this is where the trouble begins.

Therapy is built on the promise of safety. But somewhere along the way, our field collapsed the idea of safety into the idea of comfort, and those two things are not the same. Comfort and truth do not necessarily travel together. In fact they often move in opposite direction

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