DEAR ERIC: Perhaps my problem stems from the fact that I am a mid-80s mom? A couple of years ago, our very responsible son asked if he could invite about 10 friends to our large lakeside cabin during our absence. There is plenty of room for all to sleep, a big kitchen and boats and a nice lake for all to enjoy. We said fine.

Married and single people came. Ages ranged from a very young baby through people in their 50s. When my husband and I returned, there was no thank-you of any sort from anyone. I was offended.

My much-admired son says that my reaction is simply because of a generational difference: No one from his generation offers thanks for that sort of thing, and no one expects it. Is he right? If so, I am once again VERY disappointed. He wants to invite some of those people again

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