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In her early 20s, Sherrinford Holmes began to discover that she can’t stand the feeling of being confined to any point on the gender spectrum, whether it’s woman —which she said is how most people perceive her— man , or genderfluid . She likened the sensation to feeling weighed down by hotel bed sheets or blankets when she would prefer to kick them loose.

“It feels restricting,” said Holmes, now 33. “It feels suffocating.”

Holmes presents as mostly femme, but that’s not a reflection of how she sees herself; practically speaking, it’s about which clothes are made for her body and what feels most comfortable.

“Most of the time, gender’s not even on my radar,

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