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Dear How to Do It,
I have been with my girlfriend for a month now. We really like each other, but there’s a big impediment to us having sex. It has to do with my penis.
I’m not circumcised and she says she finds it disgusting. She said if I got a circumcision, she’d be all over me. This isn’t exactly the first time I’ve had a girl put off by being uncut. Even if she and I ultimately end up going our separate ways, would it be worth getting this little alteration so it’s no longer an issue?
—Foreskin Frustration
Dear Foreskin Frustration,
I think the most sound guidance for bodily alteration is that you should do it for you and not others. This is, of course, c