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Dear Care and Feeding,

Halloween is nearly two months away, but there’s already trouble brewing over my 13-year-old daughter, “Shelby’s” choice of costume.

Shelby wants to go as a sexy nurse. My husband is vehemently against it and has told her that she is “not going out dressed as a slut.” The costume is a little on the skimpy side, but it’s not THAT revealing. And our daughter is no longer a child. I don’t see the harm in this sort of thing for a single evening. Should I try and talk some sense into my husband, or just tell Shelby to go out dressed as something else, wear her nurse costume underneath, and take off the dad-approved one once she’s away from the house?

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