A dad isn't sure if he's in the wrong for planning an international trip without his two kids.

The original poster (OP) asked for advice in Reddit's AITA subreddit after his kids, now 14 and 16, got upset when they learned he was planning an international trip without them. OP explains that he shares his kids with his ex-wife and had 50/50 split custody up until a few months ago.

He goes on to say that four years ago, his ex-wife got remarried, and her new husband suggested that they revisit the custody arrangement. OP claims he spent $165,000, which he says is "basically my life savings," to fight for custody for four years.

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