Dear Eric: As a retired hospice chaplain, I would like to comment on the recent letter from the person who has a terminal illness, and by extension, all those who might feel isolated from friends and/or family because of a challenging health situation (“ Wanting Company ”). First, I hear you. You are still the same person that you always have been. You crave quality time with those you care about the most, but they distance themselves.

Now I am addressing those reading this who hesitate to visit. Not knowing what to do or say is no reason to not see them. Just show up, and soon, either by calling or visiting. Of course, contact them first for when it’s convenient to visit. Bring a prepared meal or two. If you ask how they are doing, know that they may say “lousy,” as the writer did. Do

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