A pregnant woman is asking if she should tell her friend that she's also pregnant before going to her baby shower.

The original poster (OP) shared her story on Reddit's AITA and explained that she is 31 weeks pregnant with her first baby. OP, 39, explained that she hadn't previously shared with her friends that she is expecting because she's had multiple miscarriages in the past.

"I have had five miscarriages before and this would be my first baby," wrote OP. "Because of all the losses I have not disclosed that I am pregnant — not to my work, my church, community and extended friends (just some really close friends and family members."

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