DEAR MISS MANNERS: My boyfriend and I have just started planning our wedding and asking our dearest friends to participate. I find extremely large wedding parties distasteful, and think that being an attendant in a wedding should be reserved for those you’re closest to.

My fiance is adamant that his female cousin be included as one of my bridesmaids, although he could care less whether his own sister is included. I don’t personally care for either one of these ladies, but I’m willing to compromise with him on this because I would like my own brother to be included as a groomsman. And to be honest, this isn’t worth the massive fight that would inevitably result if I refused.

My concerns are twofold: 1. Is it inappropriate to include his cousin in the wedding party but exclude his sister?

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