You Don’t Need to Be Interesting, Just Interested

Key points

Genuine curiosity builds deeper trust than charisma ever will.

Stop performing. Start listening. That’s where real presence begins.

People remember how you made them feel, not how interesting you were.

We’ve all felt the pressure to be “on.” To be witty, magnetic, full of stories, and somehow the kind of person others orbit around. From job interviews to first dates to Instagram bios, we’re taught to polish ourselves into a brand. Be bold. Be memorable. Be interesting. But here’s a quiet truth that doesn’t get enough airtime: Being interesting is overrated. What really opens doors, deepens bonds, and changes lives isn’t being the most fascinating person in the room. It’s being the most interested .

Think about the people you actually enjoy being around. Not the ones who