Dear Annie: I’m four years older than my boyfriend. I’m 36, and he’s 32. I really want to get married and have kids one day, but he wants to take things slow. I don’t know what else to do or say to him.

He’s made some bad decisions in the past, and his mom is his support system. I’ve tried to tell him that I can be his support system, but he doesn’t want me to be there for him, only his mom. Any advice? -- Unwanted in Hermitage, Tennessee

Dear Unwanted: You’ve told him what you want; he’s told you what he wants. The mismatch here isn’t a communication issue -- it’s a compatibility issue.

Now you need to decide if you’re willing to wait for him to grow up, put you before his mother and build a future with you, or if your energy and aspirations are better spent on a partner who’s ready

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