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Dear Prudence,

After more than 30 years together, my now-ex told me he had a longstanding interest in another woman. He claimed he’d never cheated, but wanted my blessing to pursue her and stay married to me. He said I couldn’t handle being single in my 50s. Well, I filed for divorce, and he pushed back. Our divorce was emotionally horrible, but I’m luckier than I could be. I’m a teacher, so I’m not rich, but I’ll have a pension and health coverage. He was a much higher earner with a better lawyer so he got the house and most assets. But I recently inherited my mom’s one-bed condo, so I didn’t have to give up my city or find a new career. Our adult kids didn’t take it well, and still are sad about “not being a famil

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