Neighbor advice: I worked hard to befriend our new neighbors. My trespassing sister

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Dear Pay Dirt,

My husband and I just bought a new house in a rural area that is increasingly becoming suburbia, much to the dislike of the older residents. We tried to put our best foot forward with our nearest neighbors who are retired and run a small hobby farm. They have goats, chickens, and a few rescued horses. We became friends, and they encouraged us to bring our nieces and nephews over to teach them about gardening and farming. Their grandchildren are all grown and live far away. The rules were to not show up unannounced or wander around unsupervised—especially with the horses.

Our neighbors are full of horror stories of new “city people” acting like these