Get Over Having to "Get It" in a Relationship

Key points

The goal of reflective listening is to concentrate on what the other person is saying.

Often, when we listen to our partner speak, we are thinking about what we’re going to say in response.

The way to reach a more peaceful relationship plateau is to simply accept our partner as they are.

In couples therapy , it's common for partners to want to explain their position. To plead their case. They want to share their point of view and how it’s different from their partner’s. They want their partner to get it . This is the kind of dynamic where the therapist can take on the role of a judge or referee. It’s an easy situation to fall into, but an important one to avoid. One way we can try to break this pattern is by using an approach called reflective listening.

Reflective List