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Dear Care and Feeding,

My husband “George” did something so flipping dumb I can’t barely believe it. Last month, he surprised me with a spa day. I thought it was incredibly sweet of him, as I work from home while also taking care of our two girls, who are 5 and 7. When I arrived home, I found my husband and kids in the backyard with a tiny white horse.

George grinned and said “surprise!” A coworker who lives in a rural area was moving to another state for a job transfer and needed to find a home for his miniature horses. George took one…without telling me! Now I don’t know what to do.

The girls have been obsessed with horses since they could walk and they are in 7th hea

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