Dear Annie: Son’s fiancee has always been distant with me, but now she’s starting to rub off on him

Dear Annie: My son, “Derek,” recently got engaged to a woman I barely know named “Monica.” They’ve been dating for a little over a year, and while she’s always polite, she’s also distant and doesn’t seem interested in getting to know our family. She rarely attends gatherings and when she does, she spends most of the time on her phone or sitting quietly next to Derek.

What’s really bothering me is that Derek seems to be pulling away, too. He used to call me at least once a week, but now I only hear from him if I reach out first. When I try to ask about the wedding or offer help, he gives short answers or tells me they haven’t decided anything yet.

I’m trying not to overstep, but it’s hard not to take this personally. I’m worried that I’m losing my son and that I’ll have no real relationsh