DEAR ABBY: I’m a 35-year-old man who has always been able to help friends with loss and life changes, until now.

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For context, I am going through the process of adopting a child, with imminent placement.

I am in constant contact with my college friends; we all talk almost daily. One of them disclosed that she just went through a miscarriage. I am at a loss. I want to be there for her while going through my own process to have kids. I can’t begin to imagine her feelings of loss and the physical pain.

I lay down and cried after she told me, grieving for her and her baby and her husband.

How do I support her? I have no idea how to help her while also following the rules of etiquette. Please help.

— INEPT IN MAINE

DEAR INEPT: You are a compassionate and empathetic person

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