Trent Rash is a gay man who spent many years trying to convince himself that he wasn't gay.

He spoke about coming out in midlife and how he had that conversation with his kids.

Alphabet Soup shares LGBTQ+ Missourians’ stories through portraiture and personal narratives.

Trent Rash: Since I've come out, I can go back now and, in retrospect, see the signs. Because I have always had a higher voice, I've been a little effeminate — in the 80s and 90s, other guys were not very nice.

I was called gay a lot when I was younger, so I was like, “I'm not!” So, then I told myself I wasn't gay because I was mad about being called that, and then I went through some really rough times with that. I'm not even sure I've shared how deeply that probably hurt me — even to my mom.

So, I also knew that I r

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