I Won't Trade Peace For Your Approval

Key points

You don't owe endless agreement to prove love.

You owe yourself the peace that allows your love to breathe.

"I won't trade peace for your approval" draws a boundary to protect your emotional well-being.

I often hear the following during my coaching sessions with parents of struggling adult children:

I love my adult child deeply, but I often feel devalued, disrespected, and drained.

These parents are like the walking wounded, stumbling to avoid eggshells. They are trying to maintain harmony, but sadly, it is usually at the cost of their mental health. I even hear, "Dr. Jeff, what if I lose them. I will never forgive myself if they pull away and never want to speak to me again." This deep-seated fear of losing connection keeps these parents overthinking, overgiving, ov