Dear Abby:

I have a job that my spouse disapproves of, so I’ve kept it a secret. It pays well and I enjoy it, but I fear it’s jeopardizing my marriage. What should I do?

—Secret Keeper

Dear Secret Keeper,

Keeping secrets, especially about something as significant as your job, can erode trust in a marriage. It’s important to be honest with your spouse and explain why you felt the need to hide this from them. Emphasize the aspects of the job you enjoy, but also be ready to listen to your spouse’s concerns. Open communication is essential to resolving this issue, and perhaps you can find a compromise that respects both your career choice and your marriage.

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