Dear Annie: I’ve always been the one in my family who organizes the holidays, remembers birthdays and keeps everyone connected. Lately, though, I feel taken for granted.

My siblings rarely help, and when I try to step back, I’m made to feel guilty for “not caring.” I love my family, but I’m exhausted from carrying the load. How do I set boundaries without seeming cold or uncaring?

— Worn Out Peacemaker

Dear Worn Out Peacemaker: You’re not cold; you’re human. Families often lean on the person who makes things happen, until that person is running on empty. Boundaries don’t mean you care less; they mean you’re protecting your well-being.

Start small: Say, “I can host, but I’ll need everyone to bring a dish,” or, “This year I’m stepping back from planning.” The people who value you will st

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