Dear Annie: My husband, “Keith,” and I have been married for 12 years. We’ve always been a team when it comes to parenting our two kids, ages 9 and 6, but lately I’ve noticed a shift. Keith has become increasingly harsh with them, especially our oldest, “Ben.” He’ll snap over small things—like a jacket left on the floor or a missed chore—and his tone has turned cold and critical.

I’ve brought it up several times, but Keith insists he’s “just trying to teach them responsibility.” I understand that, but I worry he’s doing more harm than good. Ben has started shutting down emotionally, and our younger one is now walking on eggshells.

When I try to step in and soften things, Keith accuses me of “undermining” him. I’m stuck between protecting my kids and maintaining a united front as parents.

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