Miss Manners: Is it rude to leave friends’ husbands off the guest list?

Dear Miss Manners: I have an unusual, “made-up” first name. Nowadays it’s common for kids to have a uniquely spelled name, but I’m in my 60s, so it wasn’t common growing up.

The way I’ve managed it is: I only correct the pronunciation if I expect to see that person again. This way, I’m not constantly feeling rude by correcting everyone. And the next time I see that particular person, they may not remember exactly how to say my name, but they do know there’s something odd there — so they ask.